so i made up my mind that i would not visit you. for if i grieve you, who is left so make me glad but you whom i grieved? i wrote as i did so that when i came i should not be distressed by those who ought to make me rejoice. i had confidence in all of you, that you would all share my joy. for i wrote you out of great distress and anguish of my heart and with many tears, not to grieve you but to let you know the depth of my love for you.
- 2 Corinthians 2:1-4